| item |
female avg |
male avg |
% difference |
| In a romantic relationship I expect my partner to be more of the protector. |
3.90 |
2.13 |
83.37% |
| I don't trust the opposite sex. |
3.76 |
2.29 |
64.06% |
| In a romantic relationship I expect my partner to be more of the provider. |
3.25 |
2.11 |
53.84% |
| I feel like my primary purpose is to display beauty. |
2.81 |
1.85 |
51.50% |
| My brand is to oversexualize myself. |
2.49 |
1.65 |
51.19% |
| I am sexually submissive. |
3.83 |
2.75 |
39.24% |
| I tend to ignore friends when a romantic interest is around. |
2.77 |
1.99 |
39.20% |
| I think a woman should take her husband's last name. |
1.68 |
2.72 |
38.27% |
| My sexuality is a big source of my power over others. |
1.98 |
1.45 |
37.10% |
| I'd rather date a rich boring person than a poor interesting one. |
1.88 |
1.37 |
36.99% |
| I value money more than looks in selecting a romantic partner. |
2.05 |
1.50 |
36.65% |
| In a romantic relationship, sexual attraction is more important to me than mental or emotional attraction. |
1.28 |
1.92 |
33.69% |
| A romantic partner needs to treat me like a king/queen. |
3.18 |
2.38 |
33.61% |
| I am sexually dominant. |
2.28 |
3.36 |
32.14% |
| In an ideal universe, I would be able to have multiple long term romantic partners at the same time. |
1.54 |
2.24 |
31.25% |
| The love of a romantic partner is everything. |
4.97 |
3.80 |
30.79% |
| I only date people who work hard to try to get me. |
2.88 |
2.21 |
29.99% |
| I care about how much money a romantic partner has or will have in the future. |
2.96 |
2.28 |
29.98% |
| I love being spoiled. |
4.24 |
3.29 |
28.70% |
| I want other people to want to carry me through life in luxury. |
3.00 |
2.34 |
28.18% |
| I require constant attention. |
2.69 |
2.12 |
26.89% |
| Bad boys/girls are my thing. |
3.24 |
2.58 |
25.58% |
| I always insist on paying for me and my date when I go on dates. |
2.73 |
3.65 |
25.31% |
| I expect a significant other to back me up even when I'm wrong. |
3.38 |
2.75 |
22.55% |
| I prefer to be led than lead in a romantic relationship. |
4.07 |
3.32 |
22.37% |
| It takes a really long time for me to orgasm. |
3.14 |
2.58 |
22.12% |
| I prefer a romantic partner who will take charge of things. |
3.99 |
3.29 |
21.28% |
| I use my physical appearance to draw attention to myself. |
2.81 |
2.33 |
20.92% |
| The most important quality in a romantic partner is how attractive they are to me. |
2.46 |
3.10 |
20.65% |
| I have had long term romantic relationships with people I was not attracted to. |
2.39 |
1.99 |
20.22% |
| What others find attractive influences what I find attractive. |
2.73 |
2.28 |
19.74% |
| Romantically speaking I deserve someone that totally adores me. |
4.55 |
3.80 |
19.47% |
| I have a low sex drive compared to most. |
2.49 |
2.09 |
18.72% |
| My sex drive controls me. |
1.93 |
2.37 |
18.57% |
| I value looks more than money in selecting a romantic partner. |
3.49 |
4.25 |
18.01% |
| I want a romantic partner at least as successful as me. |
3.75 |
3.18 |
17.92% |
| I sexualize every interaction. |
1.77 |
2.15 |
17.47% |
| I need people to think I'm special. |
3.89 |
3.32 |
17.19% |
| I use romantic relationships to regulate my self esteem. |
3.11 |
2.66 |
16.87% |
| I'm afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he or she won't like who I really am. |
3.62 |
3.10 |
16.77% |
| I get over breakups very quickly. |
2.24 |
2.69 |
16.73% |
| When it comes to romantic partner preference I have a bias towards whoever activates my sexual organs. |
2.74 |
3.27 |
16.21% |
| I feel a lot of contempt for my romantic exes. |
1.98 |
1.71 |
15.79% |
| My romantic partner's attractiveness is very important to me. |
3.27 |
3.88 |
15.72% |
| Romantic partners bring out the worst in me. |
2.70 |
2.34 |
15.38% |
| A potential significant other not finding me impressive is a deal-breaker. |
3.48 |
3.02 |
15.23% |
| I tend to have a plan b person in mind in case my current romantic interest/relationship doesn't work. |
1.74 |
2.05 |
15.12% |
| My identity is mostly tied to my romantic relationships. |
2.40 |
2.09 |
15.10% |
| I'm more attracted to selfish romantic partners. |
2.40 |
2.09 |
15.09% |
| I would rather be in a relationship where my partner is more in awe with me than a relationship where I am more in awe with them. |
3.77 |
3.28 |
14.94% |
| I would rather be in a relationship where I am more in awe with my partner than a relationship where they are more in awe with me. |
2.42 |
2.82 |
14.28% |
| Shared values are not the most important thing in a romantic relationship. |
2.73 |
2.39 |
14.23% |
| I don't believe in compromising for a partner in a romantic relationship. |
2.19 |
1.92 |
14.06% |
| I couldn't date someone that wasn't really impressed by me. |
3.72 |
3.29 |
12.96% |
| I'd rather be in a mediocre romantic relationship than be single. |
1.57 |
1.80 |
12.78% |
| There are people I would hook up with even if I knew they would never date me. |
3.04 |
3.49 |
12.74% |
| I act in whatever way will get the people I want to like me, to like me. |
3.83 |
3.42 |
12.22% |
| When I experience the potential of romantic rejection with someone I like, I can't stop thinking about it. |
3.82 |
3.41 |
12.02% |
| I'm not comfortable in a new relationship for several months. |
3.49 |
3.12 |
11.83% |
| If an ex that broke up up with me wanted to get back together and I was single, I'd be open to it. |
3.05 |
2.73 |
11.72% |
| I've only ever dated people that pursued me. |
3.39 |
3.05 |
11.14% |
| When it comes to romantic partner preference I have a bias towards whoever feels most like home. |
4.27 |
3.85 |
10.91% |
| The most important quality in a romantic partner is how attractive they find me. |
2.56 |
2.87 |
10.80% |
| Sometimes what other people think of my romantic partners matters more than what I think. |
2.20 |
1.99 |
10.55% |
| I try to end things with romantic partners in such a way as they remain romantic options in the future. |
2.45 |
2.73 |
10.26% |
| My interest in sex is always high. |
3.18 |
3.53 |
9.85% |
| Expecting to have some control over your romantic partner is normal. |
2.94 |
3.24 |
9.29% |
| In a romantic relationships, I'm more confident about my physical attractiveness than my personality attractiveness. |
2.07 |
1.90 |
8.95% |
| I have a history of throwing myself romantically at people. |
2.12 |
2.30 |
7.83% |
| I put more work in my romantic relationships than my partners. |
3.44 |
3.20 |
7.50% |
| I'm not interested in a romantic relationship where I have to put in more work than the other person. |
3.92 |
3.66 |
7.10% |
| I'm a romantic. |
3.99 |
3.74 |
6.68% |
| When it comes to romantic partner preference I have a bias towards whoever is more interesting to talk to. |
4.56 |
4.28 |
6.54% |
| I only give a romantic partner what they want if they give me what I want. |
2.04 |
2.15 |
5.12% |
| How much a significant other likes me is more important than how much I like them. |
3.05 |
2.95 |
3.39% |
| I'm worried about my romantic competitive standing. |
3.15 |
3.09 |
1.94% |
| I prefer romantic partners who value their family over their work. |
4.12 |
4.09 |
0.93% |
| Who I am with or will end up with romantically preoccupies my thinking. |
3.39 |
3.37 |
0.59% |
| Early in a romantic relationship I'm so euphoric. |
3.99 |
4.00 |
0.25% |
| I prefer romantic partners who value their relationships over their work. |
4.13 |
4.14 |
0.08% |
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